Performance FOMO we all have it!
Sitting here in my hometown of Boise Idaho I struggle with Performance FOMO. Basically the fear of missing out on performance opportunities, auditions or any type of work in LA. Auditioning and working in the commercial industry for the past few years has had it many ups and downs, and especially in LA you can be working 24/7. Taking the time to slow down, catch up on sleep and relax is key for my sanity, but even knowing this I struggle with the FOMO of shows happening in LA, auditions daily and the possibility of missing an opportunity that could make or break my career.
First step, accepting the FOMO. Once I acknowledged my FOMO and realized that it was ok, but really a good thing that I missed the auditions and shows it reignited my fire within. As a performer we can get extremely burnt out by the constant rejection, but sometimes taking a step back or a small break reminds you that you do love what you do and the fact that I am having the FOMO and miss the dancing makes me come back with even more excitement and love of what I do.
Second, perspective. Growing up in Idaho I am used to a slower pace, kinder folk and easy living. The big city is fast pace, cut throat, non-stop. You can get burnt out very quickly and without a few steps back a few paces slower you can lose sight of the big picture. Especially as artists this shift of perspective is key. Taking the time to admire and soak in the beauty of this planet, feel the love of my family and slow down opens up all of my senses and reminds me that I am a human first, dancer second. One of my most admired coaches would constantly remind us that when I was an LA KISS Girl (an arena football league owned by KISS the band in Los Angeles) Being better humans makes us better dancers and even though we may struggle with missing out of class, auditions, performances working from within makes you whole and a much more well rounded individual not only on the dance floor, but also off of it.
Overall, embrace the FOMO. Be grateful for who you are as a performer, artist, teacher whatever it may be and enjoy your time off. This life is so short and if you are lucky enough to have the time to spend with friends, and family who love you and support your dreams take the time to be with these people. Hold on to the little joys in this life, and remember there is a place for all of us to bloom and grow and each journey is special and your own. Happy time off and now go outside and drink some Rose! Cheers Lovers!!! xoxoxoxoxo Jean
PS Let me know if you deal with this as a performer. Do you have any stories or experiences with this? Basically help me feel like im not alone. Do you have any coping mechanisms that help you ignore the distractions of our competitive career choice? I’d love to hear!!! #goslaytoday