When you’re single like me and you find youself going on a lot of first dates. Most of these nights are left thinking, “I should have left” “I shouldn’t have reacted so obviously” “I shouldn’t have talked so much” “I should have confessed” “I should not have told him that secret”. Anything sound familiar? Anyone who has been on a bad date will ask themselves these questions or even more and we can get into a toxic circle that never ends. After an official year of dating I’ve come up with some random tips and tricks to not make each bumble, tinder, coffee meets bagel, raya, or blind date too terrible. Its all about that silver lining yall.
1. Acknowledge that nerves are normal; no one is perfect and this one date will not be the end all be all for your love life. Basically, lower your expectations and enjoy…
- Try to take a step back, and see if there is anything you could’ve done to make it a more successful date.
- Put less pressure on the event. For example, instead of a full dinner or even try and meet for drinks instead, maybe coffee or a quick bite. More casual vs formal
- If they want you to pick the place of meeting, try and choose somewhere you haven’t been to before. This way you’re doing something new that excites you no matter how poorly the date goes.
- Always set plans for after the event, even if it’s to go home and do a mask for yourself or just simply be alone. This will give yourself a way out without sounding too rude.
- Set the plan yourself, and ask him out.
- Message or text him the day after. Be the better person…because even though the date might have been a disaster, Los Angeles is a big city and it’s a small world and you may see this dude again even if you don’t want to….Like REALLY don’t want to.
- Remember that you are a hot babe and anyone would be lucky to eat a meal with you. Be proud of putting yourself out there and always..
- Put yourself out there again!
Remember, that dating is hard for everyone and especially as a young thriving woman in the 21st century, you have a busy life which can make things even more difficult. Have faith in the process but also remember that dating is like a muscle. You have to practice to make it perfect, and the practice should be fun. If you have a bad date move on. If he doesn’t call you back, move on. There are so many fish in the sea and the right fit will be for you! Put yourself out there again and try to have fun while doing it!